Have you ever seen an eharmony commercial? It’s got these average-looking people staring into each other’s eyes and talking about how happy they are. They talk about "chemistry" and "compatability." I catch myself wanting to fill out one of those all-knowing profiles. I mean, I’m already married, but maybe filling out one of those questionaires will reveal something about myself that I never knew. I seriously considered joining just so I could fill out that questionaire. The only problem? Then I’d want to sign up the hub, so I could see if we’re compatable according to eharmony.
That’s a real convincing commercial.
And, of course, there’s these diamond commericals where they say, "tell her you forever do." Holy crap. When I got married I thought THAT was forever–I didn’t know there was a trial period before you "forever do." Wait a second, maybe this is just a conspiracy to get me do buy a diamond?
What I’m wondering is: how many people out there are buying this? Marriage is not a thirty-second commercial. When you interview two people who have still only known each other a year, is that evidence of success? I am quite certain about my relationship with the hub, and we’ve been together almost eight years, but I’m not on some t.v. lording it over everyone like I won a fifth grade popularity contest.
I just hate that love is pre-packaged. The real love that gets you through the hard times is unpredictable. It keeps you sane when you need it, but there are far more dinners on the couch in front of the T.V. than candlelight meals in an elegant restaurant. For me, best moments are the ones that you didn’t plan–sitting on the back porch on a Sunday afternoon, listing the best songs from the eighties while you wait for a table on a Saturday night, snuggling-in and hitting snooze on Monday morning.
I have at least one friend who thinks it’s all about roses and presents. I hope she’s in the minority.
Hope your weekend is wonderful.