I’ve been married for four years, and my husband and I dated for almost four years before that, so we’ve been together for around eight years (the 23rd will be eight years exactly). We do not have any children other than the furry kind.
One of my good friends has been married less than two years and is expecting her first child any day now. A guy I work with has been married over five years and has two small children. It occurred to me recently that a lot of people get married, wait a year, and then start trying to have kids. Many couples who wait to have children, wait because they’re still in school. I start asking around, and most people who’ve been married as long as I have, have got kids. I don’t have any kids, and I don’t have any concrete reason. Let me correct that; I don’t have an EXTERNAL reason. I have a perfectly nice job that is child-friendly, and I’m not pursuing higher education at this time. My reasons have always come from within. At twenty-three-years-old I didn’t feel ready to have children. I needed to figure out myself, my marriage, and my profession. Since I was away from my family, I needed to learn how to take care of myself independent of others and handle whatever came my way. I didn’t think it was the time to bring children into the mix.
I’ve enjoyed this time with my husband. We’ve established ourselves as a team, and have learned to work together. Nothing brings you closer together than moving 900 miles away from your family. I hope that when we do decide to have children we can approach it as a team effort.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that I’m happy with my decision. I look at others and question it, but in the end I always come to the same conclusion: I did what was right for me, and when I do decide to have children, what was right for them as well.
In other news: I cut my hair!!! It’s short!!! I love it, but the kids will HATE it. If you want to know what it looks like, check out the picture on my slide show of me with the Hub and my friend Kristin. The do’s like that.
Enjoy your Easter.