Times Have Changed

What She Wore: White bell skirt with a black print; black tee with cap sleeves and a scoop neck with flowers embroidered around the neckline; black leather slides with a white bow and a kitten heel.  The girls at school are starting to notice just how many pairs of shoes I have.

Remember those cute little notes that kids used to pass in school?  A lot of times they looked just like this:
Do you like me?  Circle One:
Yes       No
Well, today a teacher at my school picked up a note that went like this:
Do you like me?
I like you, but I have a boyfriend
Do you smoke?
Only weed
Will you have sex with me?
I would only have sex with you if we went out for a long time–like a month.
One of the teachers in the lounge commented, What a virtuous eleven-year-old.

About takedeux

In one summer I had a baby who was hospitalized for five weeks, quit my job, and moved back to my hometown. This blog is about starting over.
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29 Responses to Times Have Changed

  1. Sue says:

    I had a neighbor in from our former neighborhood who taught jr high and she was in the locker room alot.  She told me stories of what she overheard in their.  Needless to say, I tried to keep a close eye on my girls once they got to 7th grade.  It\’s amazing what these kids are up to now.  And what they consider to NOT be really sex.  Scary.: ) Sue

  2. Sue says:

    Here we go again, crossing paths in the night.  Definitely Al-Anon.  I resisted.  I have attended a couple and as soon as I can I\’m going to more.  They really help you detect the lies from the truth.  As parents you want so much to believe them that you sometimes can\’t see what\’s really going on.  The addict also knows the parents too well and can manipulate so well.  DQ has already begun.  It began at our lunch.  Very subtle.  I let it go, but at least I recognized it and now I have to back way off.  At least I had that one lunch with the girls together.  That will be the last one for a long time until she gets her head straight.  It\’s basically the same old crap and thinking.  Same cycle, etc.  Definitely Al-Anon.  If there are several groups, have them go to more than one to find one they are comfortable with.  I hope that helps.  If not email me.  Maybe we can brainstorm.My hubby seems to think the same thing.  What\’s up with these guys?  Don\’t they know what\’s important for heaven\’s sake?  I can\’t get around to everyone if I have to spend so much time with him AND help with the triplets.  Sheesh!: ) Sue

  3. Becca says:

    OMG that note is just sad. I can\’t imagine. But times have changed so much from when I was in school. I really hope someone addresses this, so this person doesn\’t think that life really has to be this way. What a sad message this sends.

  4. . says:

    11?? AH! 11??
    What is this world coming to? Do they even know what sex is at 11? do they even realize?
    Does this world have no morals anymore?
    Smoking weed at 11?!?
    aak (in shock)

  5. CJ says:

    I could never hate you!  LOL.  I hate blonde moments.  And brain farts.  Hmmm.  That was one of those blonde moments.  It\’s frightening to know that children that young are becoming sexually active in any way, isn\’t it.  Weed and sex at 11?  Okay, Mom and Dad, do you know what YOUR children are up to?  Todays parents really need to be more actively involved in what\’s going on in their children\’s lives (see the apostrophe????  lol) .  This isn\’t just scary, it\’s very sad!

  6. Stacy says:

    At 11 I don\’t think I even knew what sex was.  Nor did I have a boyfriend – boys were gross.

  7. Val says:

    hello there .. dropping in from.. Jeannie\’s space… wow.. a teacher huh.. be surprise what kind of notes went around for sure..
    whew.. thank goodness .. i work with special need students.. and i only have the two.. and they are very special .. i will be so
    glad when i go back to work on tuesday… i really did miss my two students during the summer..
    mind you i did get to see them over the summer months.. but was just not the same.. lol
    but.. give me a few months and i will be saying.. "I Need A Break" LOL… all in fun.. lol
    anyways.. hope you do not mind me leaving a comment .. you take care now
    have a wonderful weekend..
    here is a wee gif ..
    <a href="http://photobucket.com&quot; target="_blank"><img src="http://i81.photobucket.com/albums/j237/whisperingstorm01/sunshinefriends1ws.gif&quot; border="0" alt="Photobucket – Video and Image Hosting"></a>
    smiles and hugssss

  8. Unknown says:

    Crap I\’m locking the GIRL up tonight.
    She will not come out until she\’s 30!
    This will upset my meditation for a week!

  9. Sheryl-Ann says:

    Hey KM, thanks for the comment on my space.  I really appreciate your taking the time out to explain it to me.  Where I come from, it wasn\’t really like that but more of a socioeconomic class  issue.  Thanks again!
    It\’s amazing what kids are up to these days at such a young age.  The note was a little funny but the naivete came out very strong as well.  Are these kids really aware of what they are saying and doing and the impact on their entire lives?  Who do we blame for that, KM?  At one point, I thought it just had to be the parents, but then I have encountered many parents who did right by their children and they still went down the wrong road.  I guess you just have to pray, do your best and hope they turn out good in the end, right?
    Have a wonderful Labor Day!

  10. Unknown says:

    My first thought was HOLY CRAP!!!!
    Lets go back to the days of circle yes or no!

  11. Karla says:

    How are you?

  12. Elizabeth says:

    My mouth has been hanging open for a good two minutes. Holy shit. This illustrates the parent\’s need to BE INVOLVED!!!!

  13. Carol says:

    At least she\’s not smoking cigarettes.

  14. Unknown says:

    Ah! this brings back memories…and those were just yesterday\’s 🙂

  15. Nooner™ says:

    Eleven? OMG! That may have been spin-the-bottle year for me. What a darn shame for this young person. And weed? Geeze! But, on a lighter note:  lol @ "the girls at school are starting to notice just how many pairs of shoes I have" <— lol

  16. Wahzat says:

    Oh my!!!! That is so scary! And sad!

  17. Tracy says:

    Wow, things sure have changed huh, I can\’t believe kids that age are talking like that!! Hope your weekend is going well!

  18. Unknown says:

    O…….M……….G!  That\’s just crazy.  And wrong.
    Happy Labor Day! God bless : )

  19. Wahzat says:

    Liking the new car!! How does he drive?

  20. Sarah says:

    All I can say is wow. WOW. That\’s a little on the young side!!!!

  21. David says:

    The last woman I dated, we dated six months, and in six months, we NEVER had sex!!!  (wow, I\’m really missing out on somethere, aren\’t I?)
    -David  //BootJockey

  22. K says:

    I think I might need a new keyboard for my laptop after spitting up water all over it and the monitor… That is really sad!  Why can\’t we keep our kids… innocent?  No 11 yrs old should be thinking about have sex… my god… aren\’t they just getting their periods and wearing training bras…. but sex???  Where have we gone wrong???
    My heart sank… twofold… I now need a new keyboard for my laptop… but also because the world is a sad place if 11 yrs olds are having sex… after dating for a \’really really long time\’ …. a month!
    Ciao bella,

  23. Mrsbrown2k1 says:

    That just amazes me.  When I was 11 I am sure I had know idea what weed was & boys…yuck!  DH works in pediatrics.  Sees lots of moms 16 & under who are his patients along with there kids!  One mom he has is 16 and has 3 kids already.  Really, really sad.  Heck, visiting the labor and delivery in the hosptial is enough birthcontrol for me.  LOL 
    Tam in Texas

  24. KEL says:

    an ELEVEN year old????  Wow, how time have changed.  I don\’t miss it, I would never want to go back and I worry about what will come by the time my daughter is that old…how did we ever get here?!

  25. Alicia says:

    LMFAO @ that last sentence, Katy!! 
    HUGS!!  🙂

  26. Karla says:

    What do you mean? Everyone knew about them?

  27. Nora says:

    Thanks for scaring me today!  I think of what I thought was risque when I was in school, apparently these kids know a whole lot more!.  I wonder at what age I should start teaching the boys about this stuff?

  28. Unknown says:

    I remember when I was teaching and would find notes students were passing.  Sometimes I learned things I didn\’t even know!  I think what makes me most sad about this is that my mouth is not hanging open…I guess 5 years in freshman classrooms have desensitized me.  I still think it is horrible, but I\’m not stunned…how sad.  Glad you are enjoying the year so far…I haven\’t had much time to blog-surf lately…so I had to catch up a bit!

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