What She Wore: Baggy black t-shirt; jean capris; tennis shoes. Not my most glamorous moment.
Today’s post is largely inspired some discussion that occured over at Jenn’s place. Feel free to check it out.
The Hub and I went hiking in the woods today with the K’s, and I had a wonderful time despite the fact that that I am in no way a nature girl. The group quickly left me in the dust as we climbed up an especially steep hill. After it became apparent that I couldn’t keep up, the Hub turned around and kept me company as we finished the hike.
That’s a good man I married.
We make a lot of decisions in life, and the one I never question is the decision I made to marry my husband. My mother was concerned that I was too young, and thought that maybe the Hub wouldn’t be able to handle my high-strung behavior. We never lived together before we got married, and as soon as he graduated we moved ten hours away from home. We got married with no safety nets in place. FOREVER. Without a test-run, or a chance to turn back.
I wouldn’t have done it any other way.
A lot of people get married after living together, and stay close to home. They get to have one eye on the door at all times. I’ve even had a friend who said before her wedding day, "I can always get divorced." They want to get married, but they’re not always sure it’s going to work out. I am NOT judging these people. I completely understand their choices. If I’d had my way, I probably would have wanted a safety net or two myself, but now I’m SO glad I got to jump in with two feet.
I moved away from home, and the only person I had to depend on was the Hub. We learned a lot about each other in the beginning. If I didn’t like something, I couldn’t go running home to mommy (and neither could he). The distance forced us to lean on one another rather than turn on one another. We’ve learned what makes the other tick and what drives the other crazy. We also know that if we make the other one crazy, we still have to sleep in the same bed. The result has been two people who look to each other before anything else. We are each other’s family.
I’m not saying that you shouldn’t think before you get married–the Hub and I had 3 1/2 years of dating to consider it. I’m not saying that marriage should be taken lightly. What I am saying is this: a commitment, a real one, doesn’t mean looking over you shoulder. If you say "I do" then you should throw yourself into it full force. Don’t get me wrong, there are situations where divorce is merited. I’m not even talking about divorce, really. I’m talking about marriage and getting the most out of it. Don’t look back, don’t bring a reserve chute, just do it. It’s the only way to go.
I think I made a good decision.