What She Wore: pink striped pajama pants; long-sleeve LSU t-shirt. I don’t even match. Apparently, I was coming down with one heck of a somach virus, so it’s me, TLC, and a big bottle of Sprite.
You may have read that two of my friends are getting a divorce. Jenn also printed a very distrubing article in which many woman admitted to "settling" recently. All of this really made me want to write some great manifesto about marriage and what it has to offer. To defend an institution that I really believe in.
I had no idea where to start, so this is what I came up with:
I can’t defend any marriage, but my own–which I’m crazy about.
My husband is the best thing that ever happened to me. His immediate acceptance made me RELAX for maybe the first time in years. Even when I completely suck, he realizes that this is a passing thing, and not the real me. He believes deeply that I am a good person, and there is no better feeling than that. He rarely criticizes which was a rarity in my family. He makes me feel secure, and that enables me to do more than I think possible.
But it’s not just about me: even if he weren’t my husband, he is a person I would respect. He’s quiet, but can particiapte in a conversation. He’s thoughful, and can hold his own in a debate. He works hard, and cares deeply about the quality of the work he does. He’s not interested in gagets and toys, but cares about family and people.
When marriage is at its best, it should be like this: You should come home every day to a person who supports you, and sees the best in you. When you feel like you can’t go on–they don’t neccessarily fix everything–but they hold your hand and make you think that maybe you could. Hopefully, they’ll be a person with whom you can share your dreams, and who gives you support when you want to go out on a limb.
Marrying someone doesn’t mean taking home Prince Charming. The man of your dreams will still have dirty underwear, will still spend a whole weekend watching TV, and will work late sometimes. I hate when people say "marriage isn’t easy." Despite it’s changes and challenges, I think that marriage should enhance your life.
I don’t think everyone needs to run off and get married–but if you are going to get married, I hope it’s the best. The absolute best.